top of page
  • Writer's pictureZach

A Marshmallow Test for Adults

Can Marshmallows determine our fate? More specifically, can our response to them determine our academic, social, and financial success? Back in the 1960's and 1970's, Walter Mischel and his colleagues at the Psychology Department of Stanford University designed an experiment to test the ability to delay gratification in small children aged 3-5. He put a marshmallow in front of the child and told them if they were able to wait 15 minutes to eat it, they would get a second marshmallow. Then they left the room and discreetly observed the results of how long the children would wait. Some waited longer than others. What was interesting was that when they tracked these children over time, the ones who were able to wait and delay gratification had better academic scores and got into better colleges. It seemed like they had discovered a key link in our inherent ability to put off immediate pleasure for larger rewards later and long term outcomes.

Through the years, this test has been refined and more nuances have been teased out, with a developing understanding of how poverty, culture, and other environmental factors play a role, but as someone with 16 years experience in the classroom, none of these results shock me. Students who can delay playing and distraction are those who are most often successful. They can focus on work better and get more done. They tend to be kids who read for pleasure instead of being locked to the bright flashing lights of a screen. Of course they get better grades, go on to better colleges, and build careers in difficult fields that require years of dedicated study.

As adults, we are often faced with a larger marshmallow test. Can we ignore the flashing advertisements of our consumerist world, ignore the instant dopamine rush of retail therapy, and instead save money and invest it regularly? Can we put off the immediate benefit of spending our paycheck on fun things and instead build real wealth that can get us freedom from the daily drudgery of jobs we hate? For most people, the answer is complicated and lies somewhere on a spectrum. Some months they spend more, some they save more. Sadly, far too many feel like investing is too complicated, and give their money to "financial advisers" who sell them overly complex products that rarely benefit the person doing the saving, but instead greatly enrich the adviser.

This is why the Financial Independence Retire Early (FIRE) movement still is on the fringes of society and not mainstream, no matter what percentage of people say they want to quit their job or be free of financial worries. First you have to overcome an adult marshmallow test to save money, then you have to invest wisely, which requires a bit of education, and then you have to have a fairly lucky streak of no terrible emergencies for several years to build up the nest egg that is necessary to get off the hamster wheel and achieve independence. The deck seems stacked against us from the beginning, for a lot of reasons.

When the choice is between brunch with our friends, and saving money for some abstract future that is in no way assured, the easy choice is to do the fun thing. I've known people who lived in the UAE for years, making good salaries, and who had nothing to show for it, financially speaking, when they left. They had failed the marshmallow test. They did not thank their past selves who had contributed nothing to their savings and investments. Even worse, some lived beyond their means and went into debt, creating difficult legal situations and giant financial holes they had to struggle to escape for years.

A key element in building your ability to defer gratification and meet your financial goals is the support of a strong community. Finding a tribe of people who celebrate your accomplishments and give you resources that guide you on the path to Financial Independence is critical because you won't feel like a weirdo when you make different and sometimes difficult choices. In the UAE, SimplyFi on Facebook is a fantastic and free community that provides just such support. There are others around the world as well, like ChooseFi, Bogleheads, and the Mr. Money Mustache community as well. These groups are filled with people at every stage of the journey, from getting out of debt, learning to save, learning to invest, and even those who have already achieved Financial Independence and quit their day jobs to pursue less lucrative but more rewarding lives.

The world may be set up to make you scarf down the marshmallow of immediate gratification, but you can fight back against it. You don't even have to do it alone.

If you liked this post, come join the discussion over at The Happiest Teacher Facebook Group! I would love to have your voice added to the discussion! Also, if you're into that Twitter life, come follow me!

112 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All
bottom of page